I have not blogged in a while and I understand that I really need to. So without further ado, let’s talk about Relationships!!!
I have recently made the greatest and easiest decision I have ever mad in my life and that is getting married. Prior to our engagement, my then girlfriend and I knew that we where meant for each other but there lied many frustrations in making that final commitment. But we had to discover that neither one of us were perfect, but we were perfect for each other.
Many people I encounter while speaking, preaching and in my every day life, often complain that there are not enough good men and/or women out here worth marrying. As a result of this marriage, especially in the black community, is not as esteemed as it was in times past. This sentiment is equally shared amongst men and women. Women complain that men are lazy, abusive, unemployed, have bad credit etc. Men complain that women are nags, overbearing, unfit for motherhood, etc. Hence we have finger pointing by all parties.
It is my belief that the reason most people can not find that “one,” is that they are too focused on the characteristics of a mate and not concerned about getting themselves together. I met my wife in college while we were both pursuing the education need to further our lives. At the time we met we were not interested in having a relationship. It was our mutual interest and attraction to each other’s drive that led us to be together naturally.
Some people too much time online on social networking sitea, watching television, clubbing and other activities that should be novelties, not lifestyles. These activities become counter productive to reaching one’s goals, meeting worthwhile people and become an active citizen in the world’s culture.
Get active in things that will help you and others become better people. Join a charitable organization, join a book club, become a mentor, go back to school – let your focus be on improving you, then God will send that mate that can match your lifestyle.
I was nowhere perfect when my wife and I met, but she seen that inside of me there was a person who could become great. She prayed about it, observed my lifestyle and listened to my aspirations. She then knew in her heart that I could be complimentary to her vision for own life and provide the love that she desire.
My main point is that there are plenty of good men and women out there in the world. But if you are absent to the good arenas that the world provide, you will have a harder time finding someone worthwhile.
